I’ve been thinking a lot about the article I shared on the Single & Selfish Facebook page. If you haven’t read it, I’ll link it below. It’s a brief piece about how strong women would rather be alone than put up with an asshole.
I’m not unique, guys….I get FOMO (fear of missing out) just like the next gal. I see my friends in relationships or marriages and a small part of me misses that. I see the Social Media reality of people’s pairing up and I can have a twinge of focusing on the lonely. I have a bad day and I find myself missing having a strong man to wrap his arms around me and hug me for ten minutes while I cry it out. I have those feelings too.
I also have the moments of seeing my social media feed filled with angry women fed up with the person in their lives. Hell, it isn’t just women – PEOPLE fed up with the person in their life who is causing them grief, being a jerk, causing them stress and anger and I have a physical response that is pure gratitude that I’m single and don’t have to put up with that.
I think reading this article yesterday reinforced your girl here. I think stepping away from the blog for a couple of weeks let the insecurities seep in just a tiny bit and I needed a kick in the feminist pants.
Yes, I said the word. Feminist. I’m not going to go on a full blow tangent on this but instead, I’ll insert the definition below straight from the Webster Dictionary online.
Definition of Feminism:
- The theory of the political, economic and social equality of the sexes
I have felt the pull towards dating lately. So I did what any normal person does….I downloaded an app. After setting up a profile and taking a ten minute spin around who was available I promptly deactivated my profile and deleted the app. Ain’t nobody got time for that kind of stress in their lives, amiright?
I had a renewed realization that I’d rather be single. I would rather not date. I am so very, very, very much still in the anger zone and have so much of my own baggage yet to unpack, the only thing I could bring to the table in a dating relationship would be anger, anxiety and sadness. So yeah….I’ll skip that for now.
I think, no I know that I’m not the only one feeling strongly about being single. I’m sure there are good men and women out there, I just don’t see a good abundance of them. I don’t see anyone around my vicinity that is someone I’d want to go out with. Thank you, I’d rather be single, I’d rather date my Xbox and kill dragons, I’d rather snuggle my dog and Bruce the Body Pillow than go on a date with a warm blooded human being. It’s just where I am.
So I’m raising my morning coffee cup to you men and women out there who are with me in the Single and Happy movement. Here’s to us, happy on our own. Paying our bills, taking care of business and living our lives. Fist Bump, High Five and Cheers to us.
Stay single, my friends.