So it’s been a week since I downloaded several dating apps and set up profiles. So far, I’m very pleased to say that I’ve met several really nice men. Not in real life yet, but chatting within the apps, they have all been very respectful, cheerful and encouraging. I’ve yet to receive any undesirable photographs and no one has asked me if I’m DTF…..look it up if you don’t know.
The first few days of this experience had me feeling all kinds of High School vibes. I found myself feeling very insecure about if they would like me. Am I pretty enough? Am I interesting enough? Am I too old to be using these apps? So you can imagine my relief when I began to get the likes coming in, then the messages, then the words of encouragement, then the sometimes really fun and witty conversations back and forth with some of them.
I’m cautious though. I realize we live in an age of “Catfishing” and a lot of people use these apps and services as a means to take advantage of people. There have been a couple of men where my bullshit meter has begun to wake up and take notice and I’ve acknowledged that. There have also been a couple of men who have really, really inspired me. They are creative, some of them photographers and writers who have projects and displays of art online that are fascinating and we’ve had some great conversations and admiration for one another’s work.
I even shared this blog with one fellow artist who I felt an instant connection with. If nothing else, he is someone I could totally have a blast geeking out over cameras and podcasts with. He is going to be a friend for a long time, I think. He is clearly part of the Tribe. (You know who you are if you’re reading this) But I likely won’t share the blog with others unless they stumble onto it. I’d hate to write something scathing about someone who behaved badly and then they read it. Awkward.
So for now, this first week has been a success I think. No one has asked me out on a date in real life. They still do that, right? All in all, I’m happy with the experience of online dating.
If that changes, you all know I’ll tell you allllllll about it.