You may be surprised to learn that my 20 year marriage, you know...the one that just imploded 9 months ago wasn't my first marriage. Back in 1989 I eloped just 8 days after high school graduation to Las Vegas with my then boyfriend....lets be honest, my drug dealer...and was married in a tiny chapel on… Continue reading Messages, Tests & The Plan
I never know what is going to inspire me to write on a subject. I got home earlier today from my Girlfriend Getaway mini-vacation and am really tired, possibly a little (more than possibly) hung over, so even though I thought about trying to write something for the blog, I hadn't been hit by the… Continue reading No Contact
Today was a challenging day in my professional life. I felt like I just got hit with one person or situation after another who needed my help, my compassion, direction or just an ear to listen. At the end of the day, I left feeling really spent and very fatigued. Anyone who works in the… Continue reading Compassion Fatigue
Adulting can be bitter-sweet sometimes. Outside of my day job, I'm also a makeup artist on the side and I am honored to be doing my friends makeup for her wedding in a couple of months. This will be my first wedding since the divorce and to be honest, I hadn't really thought this all the way through. The idea of a wedding makes… Continue reading Firsts
I started to write about Gaslighting this morning, and I spent about an hour on it, but it just wasn't feeling right. It wasn't sounding like my voice. So I scrapped it. But the topic is an important one and I felt it was something I wanted to share. Gaslighting for those who aren't familiar… Continue reading Gaslighting & Boats
Like most people, music has always been a part of my life. I grew up in the 70's & 80's, which depending on who you ask was either some of the best music ever made, or some of the worst. My memories are strongly associated with experiences; it might be a smell, a taste, a… Continue reading The Beat Goes On
Would you believe me if I told you I've never had a Girls Getaway Weekend? Let me rephrase that, I've never had a Girls Getaway Weekend without any children. I have been a mother since I was 19, I have been married since I was 24 and I'm now finally single and both my children are adults… Continue reading Drink up, Bitches!
I spent the first seven months after my divorce waiting for the next man to appear. I tried forcing it, I tried flirting my ass off, I tried the dating apps, I even went on a couple dates, but nothing was working. Nothing was clicking. No spark was happening. There were a couple of dark… Continue reading The Single Life is the shiz!
You might wonder, "Wendi, how didn't you know that your husband hadn't been working for two months? How didn't you notice that the bills weren't getting paid?" I'll tell you, because I did what so many other women...and men do, we leave the finances, bank accounts, saving and bill paying up to our partners. Why?… Continue reading Learning to Adult
It's a lazy Sunday morning and I've walked the dog, brewed some coffee and settled back in bed for some internet surfing (do they still say that?) and catching up on Social Media. One of the things I like to do is catch up on some of the codependent recovery Facebook pages I belong to. … Continue reading Feeding the need