I try really hard to not make the same mistake twice. My mom always said if I got in trouble for something I never got caught doing it again. Is this meant to say that I never did that thing again? Or that I never got caught again? Who's to know? I'd like to think… Continue reading The art of f*cking up
It's our Blogaversary! Two years ago, I remember where I was, thoughts circling in my brain. I was thinking about my divorce, thinking about how alone I felt. I remember suddenly realizing that I was looking at this whole being alone thing the wrong way. Perhaps I needed to think of the aloneness as being… Continue reading Happy Blogday!!
I did a thing today. I deleted my dating apps. I'll admit, it was kind of fun seeing all the men who hit "Like" on my photo, and I have probably benefitted in the self esteem department from it. I had to be honest with myself though, I have no interest in dating or even… Continue reading No Dating Zone
You may be surprised to learn that my 20 year marriage, you know...the one that just imploded 9 months ago wasn't my first marriage. Back in 1989 I eloped just 8 days after high school graduation to Las Vegas with my then boyfriend....lets be honest, my drug dealer...and was married in a tiny chapel on… Continue reading Messages, Tests & The Plan
I never know what is going to inspire me to write on a subject. I got home earlier today from my Girlfriend Getaway mini-vacation and am really tired, possibly a little (more than possibly) hung over, so even though I thought about trying to write something for the blog, I hadn't been hit by the… Continue reading No Contact
Today was a challenging day in my professional life. I felt like I just got hit with one person or situation after another who needed my help, my compassion, direction or just an ear to listen. At the end of the day, I left feeling really spent and very fatigued. Anyone who works in the… Continue reading Compassion Fatigue
Adulting can be bitter-sweet sometimes. Outside of my day job, I'm also a makeup artist on the side and I am honored to be doing my friends makeup for her wedding in a couple of months. This will be my first wedding since the divorce and to be honest, I hadn't really thought this all the way through. The idea of a wedding makes… Continue reading Firsts
I started to write about Gaslighting this morning, and I spent about an hour on it, but it just wasn't feeling right. It wasn't sounding like my voice. So I scrapped it. But the topic is an important one and I felt it was something I wanted to share. Gaslighting for those who aren't familiar… Continue reading Gaslighting & Boats
Like most people, music has always been a part of my life. I grew up in the 70's & 80's, which depending on who you ask was either some of the best music ever made, or some of the worst. My memories are strongly associated with experiences; it might be a smell, a taste, a… Continue reading The Beat Goes On
Would you believe me if I told you I've never had a Girls Getaway Weekend? Let me rephrase that, I've never had a Girls Getaway Weekend without any children. I have been a mother since I was 19, I have been married since I was 24 and I'm now finally single and both my children are adults… Continue reading Drink up, Bitches!