F¥cking Valentine’s Day

I woke up with a serious bee in my bonnet today. It’s Valentine’s Day again and I 👏🏼 Hate 👏🏼 It👏🏼!! It’s the dumbest holiday if you’re single. It’s the sweetest holiday if you’re happily in love. Bleh!! Gross! Gag me with a chocolate spoon. I’ve been rather venomous on social media today, spewing my…

The art of f*cking up

I try really hard to not make the same mistake twice. My mom always said if I got in trouble for something I never got caught doing it again. Is this meant to say that I never did that thing again? Or that I never got caught again? Who's to know? I'd like to think…

Happy Blogday!!

It's our Blogaversary! Two years ago, I remember where I was, thoughts circling in my brain. I was thinking about my divorce, thinking about how alone I felt. I remember suddenly realizing that I was looking at this whole being alone thing the wrong way. Perhaps I needed to think of the aloneness as being…

Things I’m looking forward to after hip surgery

Yep, you heard right folks.  I'm 48 years old and I'm having a full hip replacement later this summer.  I've suffered from hip pain for the last five years or really if I'm honest, it's been off and on for the last ten years but it's progression has ramped up in the last five. I…

Self Care

Who doesn't need a hug once in a while from a soft, squishy teddy bear? When life gets to be a little bit too much how do you deal?  When the atrocities of the world all get to be a little bit too heavy how do we reconcile that with our sense of gratitude? I…

October

Has it really almost been a month since I published a blog post? I'm sorry, y'all. October has me in its snare again. Every year I get weird. I get sad, depressed, angry and pull inward. I call it cocooning. I sort of wrap myself up in my apartment and don't want to talk. There's…

Taking a stroll down Blog Memory Lane

A funny thing happened today.  I got a notification that my Single & Selfish Facebook page had a couple of new views.  So I opened my WordPress App and took a look at the numbers.  Whoa Nelly!  Someone....or a couple of someone's had taken a DEEP Dive into my blog.  They read almost 30 blog…

The Sweeter Things

It's the night before Thanksgiving and as is customary in American Households, most of us are beginning the cooking or prepping process for the big food show tomorrow. I'm so fortunate this year, as my sister and her wonderful husband are preparing the entire Turkey Day meal and the rest of us shlums just have…

This too shall pass

Anger turned inward becomes depression. I've been a little crabby lately.  (See what I did there?) No, really.  I'm dealing with some depression and sadness as I round out this last week of the first year of divorce.  I'm big on dates.  Like, it's not normal.  I remember dates like a calendar.  For example, yesterday…

Cleaning Therapy?

Have you ever gone to YouTube and searched "Clean with me" or "Cleaning motivation"? If not, go to YouTube right now and do it. I mean it, try it.....we'll wait. Crazy right?  There are hundreds, or maybe even thousands of videos of just people cleaning.  Cleaning! I have used cleaning and organizing as a way…