Rear view reflections

I have a few friends who are in the trenches right now. Experiencing betrayal on the most intimate level and the emotional roller coasters are really rough. While it's hard to watch your friends be in the depths of despair and wrought with trauma, I also know there is a light at the end of…

The Next Chapter

So here’s the thing. The Single & Selfish thing has pretty much run its course. I am for all intents and purposes, living full time with The Judge. I still have my apartment- my lease isn’t up until the end of the year, but I’d rather spend every night with him. It’s that great. This…

This is going to be gross

Screenshot from https://pin.it/3iTYV25 on Pinterest I warned you. This is going to be a gag-fest if you’re single and salty. Maybe that should have been my monicker instead of Single & Selfish. I digress...if you are one of my people who is anti love and anti relationship- which is totally ok!! You do you, Boo-Boo;…

F¥cking Valentine’s Day

I woke up with a serious bee in my bonnet today. It’s Valentine’s Day again and I 👏🏼 Hate 👏🏼 It👏🏼!! It’s the dumbest holiday if you’re single. It’s the sweetest holiday if you’re happily in love. Bleh!! Gross! Gag me with a chocolate spoon. I’ve been rather venomous on social media today, spewing my…

The art of f*cking up

I try really hard to not make the same mistake twice. My mom always said if I got in trouble for something I never got caught doing it again. Is this meant to say that I never did that thing again? Or that I never got caught again? Who's to know? I'd like to think…

Happy Blogday!!

It's our Blogaversary! Two years ago, I remember where I was, thoughts circling in my brain. I was thinking about my divorce, thinking about how alone I felt. I remember suddenly realizing that I was looking at this whole being alone thing the wrong way. Perhaps I needed to think of the aloneness as being…

Things I’m looking forward to after hip surgery

Yep, you heard right folks.  I'm 48 years old and I'm having a full hip replacement later this summer.  I've suffered from hip pain for the last five years or really if I'm honest, it's been off and on for the last ten years but it's progression has ramped up in the last five. I…

Self Care

Who doesn't need a hug once in a while from a soft, squishy teddy bear? When life gets to be a little bit too much how do you deal?  When the atrocities of the world all get to be a little bit too heavy how do we reconcile that with our sense of gratitude? I…

October

Has it really almost been a month since I published a blog post? I'm sorry, y'all. October has me in its snare again. Every year I get weird. I get sad, depressed, angry and pull inward. I call it cocooning. I sort of wrap myself up in my apartment and don't want to talk. There's…

Taking a stroll down Blog Memory Lane

A funny thing happened today.  I got a notification that my Single & Selfish Facebook page had a couple of new views.  So I opened my WordPress App and took a look at the numbers.  Whoa Nelly!  Someone....or a couple of someone's had taken a DEEP Dive into my blog.  They read almost 30 blog…