While I don't wish divorce upon my worst enemy, the national average tells us that it's going to happen to many of us. It's unfortunately a fact of life when you are dealing with adult humans who have freedom of will and sometimes a case of impulse control or just a Shady AF partner. While… Continue reading Divorce Essentials!!
As I round the bases on the third year of being single – yes, it's been three years. I know! I can't believe it either. Next month, November 16th will be the third anniversary of the day my marriage imploded. The anniversary of the day I came to the sudden and quite world shattering realization… Continue reading Single & Selfish…What I’ve learned
Vulnerability. I had an interaction with someone I care about recently that made me feel really vulnerable. It basically made me feel like my heart was outside of my body and exposed to the elements and it was oh so very unprotected. It felt as though giving a piece of my heart to this person… Continue reading Is vulnerability a dirty word?
I try really hard to not make the same mistake twice. My mom always said if I got in trouble for something I never got caught doing it again. Is this meant to say that I never did that thing again? Or that I never got caught again? Who's to know? I'd like to think… Continue reading The art of f*cking up
I've written before that someday I'd like to get a tattoo that reads "Scars are like birthmarks but with better stories". Scars are funny. Some are on the outside, some are on the inside. Some scars heal and lighten on their own, and some scars are dark, rippled, puckered and pronounced forever. We often don't… Continue reading Another scar….
I wrote something this morning, kind of by accident that I thought was important. "Until you've had enough, you will continue to go back to what hurts you. I wish you enough." I was paroozing my codependent facebook groups, reading posts, commenting on some. I don't often write posts on these sites, I'm more of… Continue reading I wish you Enough
It's our Blogaversary! Two years ago, I remember where I was, thoughts circling in my brain. I was thinking about my divorce, thinking about how alone I felt. I remember suddenly realizing that I was looking at this whole being alone thing the wrong way. Perhaps I needed to think of the aloneness as being… Continue reading Happy Blogday!!
Today would have been my 23rd wedding anniversary. You want to know what I feel about it? Absolutely nothing. Nothing, nada, zilch. Know what else? We reached over 500 followers this week! You guys! I started this blog almost two years ago and I would be happy if just a handful of people read it.… Continue reading Anniversaries & Milestones
Yep, there she is, folks. My new Side Chick, Candy. Get it? Candy Cane? I know, eye roll. I'll see myself out. I'm more and more shocked at how exhausting chronic pain is. I mean really. It takes me twice as long to get anywhere, I'm afraid of falling - hence the cane and people… Continue reading I’m exhausted
So I cancelled my date with the guy last weekend. I also told him I wanted to go back to being just friends. I explained that he had opened my eyes to my inability to trust and the triggers (how I hate that word) that he spurred. He reluctantly agreed. How does one go about… Continue reading Bandaids over Bullet holes