I have a few friends who are in the trenches right now. Experiencing betrayal on the most intimate level and the emotional roller coasters are really rough. While it's hard to watch your friends be in the depths of despair and wrought with trauma, I also know there is a light at the end of… Continue reading Rear view reflections
Remember back last year when I wrote a blog post about there is an After? Yeah, take a second and go read that one again. It’s a good bit of information and I am reminded again today, on what would have been my 24th wedding anniversary that there is indeed an After and I have… Continue reading The After
While I don't wish divorce upon my worst enemy, the national average tells us that it's going to happen to many of us. It's unfortunately a fact of life when you are dealing with adult humans who have freedom of will and sometimes a case of impulse control or just a Shady AF partner. While… Continue reading Divorce Essentials!!
I try really hard to not make the same mistake twice. My mom always said if I got in trouble for something I never got caught doing it again. Is this meant to say that I never did that thing again? Or that I never got caught again? Who's to know? I'd like to think… Continue reading The art of f*cking up
If you've been around here for long you might remember one of my very early blog posts back in 2017 that was about Gaslighting. In that blog post, I mentioned that I'd never heard the term before until I started reading posts by @StillLearning2b on Twitter otherwise known as Lisa Arends. She's a fellow Texan,… Continue reading Lessons from the rear view
I've written before that someday I'd like to get a tattoo that reads "Scars are like birthmarks but with better stories". Scars are funny. Some are on the outside, some are on the inside. Some scars heal and lighten on their own, and some scars are dark, rippled, puckered and pronounced forever. We often don't… Continue reading Another scar….
I was having a chat with one of my best friends recently and they were retelling what hobbies they had put down during their long marriage for one reason or another, either it was something their spouse didn't appreciate or want to do or they felt their time was better utilized with the family. There… Continue reading Finding what was once lost
It's our Blogaversary! Two years ago, I remember where I was, thoughts circling in my brain. I was thinking about my divorce, thinking about how alone I felt. I remember suddenly realizing that I was looking at this whole being alone thing the wrong way. Perhaps I needed to think of the aloneness as being… Continue reading Happy Blogday!!
Hey you. Yeah, you. The one over there bleeding from your blood pumper chest hole where your heart used to be. Waking up daily thinking it was all just a dream only to in the very next moment have reality crash into you that the break up, the divorce, the separation, the end, really did… Continue reading There is an After
Often over the past two years I sometimes found myself questioning why things went down the way they did. I have had times of quietly (sometimes not so quietly) demanding why God/The Universe/The Creator dumped a steaming pile of shit in my lap that I was solely in charge of cleaning up. Why suddenly at… Continue reading Thrive where you are planted