There is an After

Hey you.  Yeah, you.  The one over there bleeding from your blood pumper chest hole where your heart used to be.  Waking up daily thinking it was all just a dream only to in the very next moment have reality crash into you that the break up, the divorce, the separation, the end, really did…

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Be Fearless

Little known fact, or maybe you already know it, I don't know, I don't live your life...I love personality quizzes. I also love podcasts. Combine the two and I'm one happy gal. The podcast I've been basically inhaling lately is Ologies. It's an interview style podcast where each guest is a specialist in some type…

Speaking your truth

Can you ask for what you want?  Can you speak your truth even if it's uncomfortable and awkward? I have been in a low key relationship for the past three months with a lovely man.  Of course I am referring to Keanu.  He is strong, capable, smart, funny and has a litany of other qualities…

Goals

When I ended my marriage over two years ago, over time I found freedom.  I could make my own choices without consulting anyone else and could set new goals and challenges for myself.  One of those goals was to do yoga. I used to be a gym rat with my ex-husband.  We would go to…

September 11th

Twelve years ago my body changed.  Twelve years ago today I was in surgery for eleven hours as I underwent a double mastectomy and reconstruction in the same day. I often joke that on September 11th, 2006 my twin towers fell.  That joke doesn't feel right today.  Seventeen years ago today something horrible happened in…

Perspective

I was walking past my Blessings Jar recently and noticed it's getting pretty full.  That makes me happy.  It makes me happy that I have so many blessings in my life that need documenting, and it also makes me happy that I'm at a place in my life where I see the blessings and am…

It’s been a minute

I've been seeing, reading, and saying this motto recently Getting divorced sucks. Being divorced doesn't. I know, it's been a minute since I last wrote a blog post.  I was really good there for a while, writing and publishing a post every week.  Then The Gentleman happened.  I'm no longer Single & Selfish....well, no longer…

Can you recalibrate a busted up B.S. meter?

I feel like my bullshit meter is so broken, there is no way calibrate it I don't have a clue what to title this post.  A topic has been on my heart for the last couple of days and when an idea for a post sticks with me for more than a few hours I…

Storms & The Single Gal

Phew! The last month....amiright? Well, almost a month,  it will be three weeks tomorrow that Hurricane Harvey rolled through South Texas.  My city has pretty much gotten back into the groove of things and we've taken some huge leaps in getting everyone back to some type of normal. I was struck with the urge to…

Grief isn’t linear

Have you ever taken a trip that was linear?  Non-stop from one point to another.  I don't mean your morning drive to work kind of trip, I mean a meaningful trip that has the potential to create changes and memories. A road trip across multiple states for example.  They are rarely non-stop and they often…